Gender Neutral Parenting: Raising Kids with the Freedom to Be Themselves
October 9th, 2013
Our culture has strict rules for acceptable behavior for men and women. But what about kids who fall outside the boundaries of prescribed roles? This book is a guide for parents in the practical application of Gender Neutral Parenting - a parenting style based on respect for a child's self-identity and providing latitude in exploring their own version of gender and gender expressions.
The Transgender Teen
September 13th, 2016
What do you do when your son announces he is transgender and asks that you call her by a new name? Or what if your child uses a term you’ve never heard of to describe themselves (neutrois, agender, non-binary, genderqueer, androgyne…) and when you didn’t know what they meant, they left the room and now won’t speak to you about it? Perhaps your daughter recently asked you not to use gendered pronouns when referring to ‘her’ anymore, preferring that you use “they”; you’re left wondering if this is just a phase, or if there’s something more that you need to understand about your child.
Lesbian Mothers: Accounts of Gender in American Culture
May 1st, 1993
ISBN 080148099X (ISBN13: 9780801480997)
Within a society that long considered "lesbian motherhood" a contradiction in terms, what were the experiences of lesbian mothers at the end of the twentieth century? In this illuminating book, lesbian mothers tell their stories of how they became mothers; how they see their relationships with their children, relatives, lovers, and friends and with their children's fathers and sperm donors; how they manage child-care arrangements and financial difficulties; and how they deal with threats to custody. Ellen Lewin's unprecedented research on lesbian mothers in the San Francisco area captured a vivid portrait of the moment before gay and lesbian parenting moved into the mainstream of U.S. culture.
How to Understand and Accept Your Gay Son
February 7th, 2015
ISBN 1508588198 (ISBN13: 9781508588191)
If you have just found out that your son is gay, or if you think he might be, you might find it overwhelming and have lots of questions and confusion. You might wonder what made him this way or wonder what it means for his life. You could be feeling afraid, heartbroken or disappointed. Maybe you’re hoping that this is just a phase that he will grow out of. You might even feel like you don’t know who he is anymore and wonder if there is any way to truly accept him.
Something to Tell You: The Road Families Travel When a Child is Gay
May 29th, 2001
ISBN 0231104391 (ISBN13: 9780231104395)
Even now, at the end of the twentieth century, many still have difficulty standing up and saying, "I am the parent of a gay child." Something to Tell You recounts the stories of families whose lives have been touched by the discovery that a child is lesbian or gay--how it affects and influences people's perceptions of their children and even changes the self- image of parents themselves. Focusing on fifty average families--not people seen in clinics or therapy--the authors found a consistent pattern of change: first negative, then positive. Sometimes the news led parents and siblings to form stronger bonds with the child, with each other, and with other relatives and friends.
My Child Is Gay: How Parents React When They Hear the News
October 1st, 1998
ISBN 1741751241 (ISBN13: 9781741751246)
Written by parents who have a gay or lesbian child, this compilation of letters can help parents deal with feelings of confusion, embarrassment, guilt, or anger, while showing how ordinary families have found love, happiness, and normalcy again. Updated with new stories and experiences, this edition acknowledges that while a brave child often takes time to come to terms with his sexuality before sharing his feelings, parents are often shocked and overwhelmed with little time to react. Together these letters reaffirm the healing power of support and allow those with first-hand knowledge to outline the steps toward understanding and the importance of helping their children share the truth.
Getting Simon: Two Gay Doctors' Journey to Fatherhood
September 1st, 1995
ISBN 1883647045 (ISBN13: 9781883647049)
This narrative of homosexual family values is "a page turner!...A must-read for anyone considering adoption or surrogacy"
Gay Fatherhood: Narratives of Family and Citizenship in America
November 1st, 2009
ISBN 0226476588 (ISBN13: 9780226476582)
Men are often thought to have less interest in parenting than women, and gay men are generally assumed to prefer pleasure over responsibility. The toxic combination of these two stereotypical views has led to a lack of serious attention being paid to the experiences of gay fathers. But the truth is that more and more gay men are setting out to become parents and succeeding—and Gay Fatherhood aims to tell their stories. Ellen Lewin takes as her focus people who undertake the difficult process of becoming fathers as gay men, rather than having become fathers while married to women.
Coming Out of the Adoptive Closet
December 10th, 2003
ISBN 0761827382 (ISBN13: 9780761827382)
Coming Out of the Adoptive Closet explores the social disclosure patterns of adoptive parents, giving voice to the "everyday life" of adoptive families. In previous generations, parents often chose to keep the adoption experience hidden with an "adoptive closet." This qualitative study, utilizing interviews with 43 adoptive couples, explores the social disclosure of adoptive information by a new generation of adoptive parents. Focus is given to issues of social perception, individual development, family development, and family presentation strategies.
Not in This Family: Gays and the Meaning of Kinship in Postwar North America
September 10th, 2010
ISBN 0812242688 (ISBN13: 9780812242683)
Many Americans hold fast to the notion that gay men and women, more often than not, have been ostracized from disapproving families. Not in This Family challenges this myth and shows how kinship ties were an animating force in gay culture, politics, and consciousness throughout the latter half of the twentieth century. Historian Heather Murray gives voice to gays and their parents through an extensive use of introspective writings, particularly personal correspondence and diaries, as well as through published memoirs, fiction, poetry, song lyrics, movies, and visual and print media.
Double Pregnant: Two Lesbians Make a Family
May 1st, 2014
ISBN 1552666018 (ISBN13: 9781552666012)
Girl meets girl. Girl marries girl. They want to have babies…but they need a little help. Double Pregnant is author Natalie Meisner’s light-hearted, poignant and informative true story about starting a family with her wife Viviën. Because Viviën is a woman of colour who was adopted into a white family, the couple wants their children to have a connection to their donor and decide against taking the anonymous, sperm clinic route. But they realize they are going to need some help. Taking matters into their own hands leads the couple to a series of often-hilarious “dates” with potential donors, all of whom have wildly different opinions on how the donation process should go, and how Natalie and Viviën should proceed as a new family.
Lesbian and Gay Foster and Adoptive Parents: Recruiting, Assessing, and Supporting an Untapped Resource for Children and Youth
August 1st, 2006
ISBN 1587601044 (ISBN13: 9781587601040)
The Lesbian Parenting Book: A Guide to Creating Families and Raising Children
September 28th, 1995
ISBN 1580050905 (ISBN13: 9781580050906)
Written by two experienced lesbian therapists and parents, this second edition of Lesbian Parenting has been updated to reflect the contemporary cultural and political landscape, as well as current trends in parenting. Drawing on the real- life experiences of lesbian families and the latest information from family specialists, the authors present detailed, chapter-by-chapter information on each stage of parenthood and child development. New material includes information on circumcision, Internet safety, legal hoops for non-custodial parents, the facts about late-in-life pregnancies, moms working inside and outside of the home, and more. An essential text for every lesbian who is involved inor considering raising a family."
The Guide to Lesbian and Gay Parenting
May 23rd, 1994
ISBN 0044409036 (ISBN13: 9780044409038)
Gay Parenting: Complete Guide for Same-Sex Families
July 20th, 2015
Parenting is never easy. Gay and lesbian couples face special questions and concerns. Should they adopt, use surrogates, artificial insemination or conception by one partner? How will the two partners handle the traditional roles of mother and father? How can gay and lesbian parents help their growing children deal with teasing and homophobia at school? And how can they get legal protection to ensure that both parents have equal rights and responsibilities?
Beyond Dolls & Guns: 101 Ways to Help Children Avoid Gender Bias
November 6th, 1995
ISBN 0435081292 (ISBN13: 9780435081294)
Susan Crawford presented examples of inadvertent but blatant sexism to her daughter's school. The lukewarm response she received influenced her to research the topic on her own to learn ways she as a parent could have an impact. Finding mostly lengthy books geared toward educators, her research became the start of this book, whose key features include: more tips than a parent could us in a year! it doesn't exclude boys form the discussion a short dip-in-and-out format includes the solutions as well as the problems.
Family Values: Two Moms and Their Son
May 4th, 1993
ISBN 0679421882 (ISBN13: 9780679421887)
A beautifully written memoir of the author's fight to legally co-parent her lesbian lover's child--an inspiring story of love, liberation, and family values. Set against the background of the San Francisco lesbian-gay civil rights struggle, Burke's uplifting portrait of her nontraditional family will deeply touch readers.
Lesbians Raising Sons
April 1st, 1997
ISBN 1555834108 (ISBN13: 9781555834104)
The lesbian community is witnessing a unique phenomenon — lesbians raising sons. With subjects including training men to be feminists, coping with homophobia, and finding male role models for sons, this powerful collection belongs on the bookshelf of every lesbian mother raising a son.
Stuck in the Middle with You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders
April 30th, 2013
ISBN 0767921763 (ISBN13: 9780767921763)
A father for ten years, a mother for eight, and for a time in between, neither, or both ("the parental version of the schnoodle, or the cockapoo"), Jennifer Finney Boylan has seen parenthood from both sides of the gender divide. When her two children were young, Boylan came out as transgender, and as Jenny transitioned from a man to a woman and from a father to a mother, her family faced unique challenges and questions. In this thoughtful, tear-jerking, hilarious memoir, Jenny asks what it means to be a father, or a mother, and to what extent gender shades our experiences as parents.
Heartbreak and Happiness: A Gay Couple's Sojourn Through the Perils of Adoption
August 17th, 2015
ISBN 1504337670 (ISBN13: 9781504337670)
To all adoptive parents whose yearning for a child enabled you to persevere, even in your darkest days when you thought it would never happen and the system seemed cold and uncaring. They say what doesn't kill us makes us stronger, but, in our case, it very nearly did-and the ramifications continue. Has this journey been a blessing or a curse? The jury's still out on that one, as our lives continue to hold pockets of love and joy amid chaos and desperation. Lest you think our experience with the British adoption system was because we were gay, we include our friend's story at the conclusion of ours; her tale is just as frustrating and gut-wrenching. Though we know there are many inspiring and happy adoption stories out there, we still must say to anyone considering adoption: Be prepared and beware!
April 5th, 2011
ISBN 143917640X (ISBN13: 9781439176405)
Sarah Kate Ellis, a high-powered magazine executive, and Kristen Henderson, a laid-back rock star, decide it’s time to start their family. After determining that Sarah should get pregnant first while Kristen works on her band’s new CD, they head to a fertility doctor to start the process. But after months of drug treatments, miscarriages, and heartbreak, Kristen decides to start trying, too. That’s when the utterly improbable happens Sarah and Kristen find out that they are both pregnant—and are due three days apart. Overjoyed by the news that they are both expecting, Sarah and Kristen are also overwhelmed by all that lies ahead. Both have successful, demanding careers. Both have large, close-knit families nearby, including two strongly opinionated mothers who immediately want to be involved with everything.
September 10th, 2012
ISBN 0737764236 (ISBN13: 9780737764239)
Each title in the highly acclaimed Opposing Viewpoints series explores a specific issue by placing expert opinions in a unique pro/con format; the viewpoints are selected from a wide range of highly respected and often hard-to-find publications.; This title explores the impact of gay parenting on children, the impact of gay families on society, what methods of parenthood should be available to same-sex partners, and what laws should regulate gay parenting.
It's a Family Affair: The Complete Lesbian Parenting Book
August 1st, 2001
ISBN 1873741626 (ISBN13: 9781873741627)
Lisa Saffron is the acknowledged UK expert on self-insemination, runs parenting workshops and writes a column in "Diva" magazine about lesbian families. Now, in one unique volume, Saffron uses new interviews with lesbian parents and with their kids to bring alive the issues. Gay donors and fathers are also interviewed to find out how they fit in to the lesbian family. "It's a Family Affair" combines everything that was great about Saffron's previous work with the results of new research on how children fare in non-conventional families.
No Place Like Home: Relationships and Family Life among Lesbians and Gay Men
February 1st, 2000
ISBN 0226094863 (ISBN13: 9780226094861)
In this rich, surprising portrait of the world of lesbian and gay relationships, Christopher Carrington unveils the complex and artful ways that gay people create and maintain both homes and "chosen" families for themselves.
Lesbians, Gays, and Bisexuals Becoming Parents or Remaining Childfree: Confronting Social Inequalities
November 1st, 2015
ISBN 1498521967 (ISBN13: 9781498521963)
This book recognizes that intense public battles are being waged in the U.S. over the rights of LGB people to form legally and culturally recognized families. Their families are under a kind of sociopolitical scrutiny at this historical moment that compels us all to take stock of our strategies of family-building and, more broadly, the meaning of family in the U.S. today. Through in-depth, open-ended, qualitative interviews with 61 self-identified lesbian, gay, and bisexual people regarding how they came to have children or remain childless/childfree, this book reveals the challenges posed by homophobia and discrimination and showcases the creative strategies, resilience, and resourcefulness of lesbians, bisexuals, and gays as they build families (with or without children) after coming out.
The Family of Woman: Lesbian Mothers, Their Children, and the Undoing of Gender
September 6th, 2004
ISBN 0520239644 (ISBN13: 9780520239647)
Amidst the shrill and discordant notes struck in debates over the make-up—or breakdown—of the American family, the family keeps evolving. This book offers a close and clear-eyed look into a form this change has taken most recently, the lesbian co-parent family. Based on intensive interviews and extensive firsthand observation, The Family of Woman chronicles the experience of thirty-four families headed by lesbian mothers whose children were conceived by means of donor insemination. With its intimate perspective on the interior dynamics of these families and its penetrating view of their public lives, the book provides rare insight into the workings of emerging family forms and their significance for our understanding of "family"—and our culture itself.
Invisible Families: Gay Identities, Relationships, and Motherhood among Black Women
August 29th, 2011
ISBN 0520269527 (ISBN13: 9780520269521)
Mignon R. Moore brings to light the family life of a group that has been largely invisible—gay women of color—in a book that challenges long-standing ideas about racial identity, family formation, and motherhood. Drawing from interviews and surveys of one hundred black gay women in New York City, Invisible Families explores the ways that race, and class have influenced how these women understand their sexual orientation, find partners, and form families. In particular, the study looks at the ways in which the past experiences of women who came of age in the 1960s and 1970s shape their thinking and have structured their lives in communities that are not always accepting of their openly gay status.
Gay Men Choosing Parenthood
December 31st, 2003
ISBN 0231117973 (ISBN13: 9780231117975)
Gay parenting is a topic on which almost everyone has an opinion but almost nobody has any facts. Here at last is a book based on a thorough review of the literature, as well as interviews with a pioneering group of men who in the 1980s chose to become fathers outside the boundaries of a heterosexual union--through foster care, adoption, and other kinship relationships. This book reveals how very natural and possible gay parenthood can be. What factors influence this decision? How do the experiences of gay dads compare to those of heterosexual men? How effectively do professional services such as support groups serve gay fathers and prospective gay fathers?
And Baby Makes More: Known Donors, Queer Parents, and Our Unexpected Families
October 1st, 2009
ISBN 1897178832 (ISBN13: 9781897178836)
And Baby Makes More: Known Donors, Queer Parents, and Our Unexpected Families explores the role of the "known donor" in the queer family structure: what happens when would-be dyke moms or gay dads ask a friend or acquaintance to donate sperm or an egg, or to act as a surrogate? A quirky, funny, and occasionally heartbreaking collection of personal essays, this book offers an intimate look at the relative risks and unexpected rewards of queer, do-it-yourself baby-making, and the ways in which families are re-made in the process. With no clear models to follow, these new versions of the queer family are creating their own, addressing questions such as: What's the difference between being a donor and being a parent? What happens to non-biological parents when a known donor is also part of the picture?
For Lesbian Parents: Your Guide to Helping Your Family Grow Up Happy, Healthy, and Proud
March 23rd, 2001
ISBN 1572306637 (ISBN13: 9781572306639)
Raising a child is overwhelming, thrilling, exhausting, terrifying, and joyous--and all at the same time. In addition to the adjustments that any new parents must make, lesbian mothers face numerous special questions and concerns. From "coming out" to your child to coping with the pressures of trying to be a lesbian super-mom, this wise and reassuring book offers information and support for women forging a new path in what it means to be a family. The authors are uniquely qualified for the task as expert developmental psychologists who are also coparenting two young daughters. With clarity and wit, they offer helpful advice on what kids need to know, and at what age; how to help them respond to questions and teasing from peers; ways to foster sensitivity in relatives, teachers, and others; how to talk to teens about their own developing sexuality; how parenting affects couple relationships; and much more.
Modern Families: Stories of Extraordinary Journeys to Kinship
September 10th, 2015
The kinds of families we see today are different than they were even a decade ago, some fantastically so, as paths to parenthood have been rejiggered by technology, activism, and law. In Modern Families, Joshua Gamson brings us extraordinary family creation tales, his own included, that illuminate this changing world of contemporary kinship. We meet a child with two mothers, made with one mother's egg and the sperm of a man none of them has ever met and carried by the other mother; another born to a man and a woman in Ethiopia, delivered by his natural grandmother to an orphanage after both his parents died in close succession, and then to the arms of his mother, who is raising him solo.
Coming Around: Parenting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Kids
October 1st, 2012
ISBN 0882823930 (ISBN13: 9780882823935)
Coming Around is a resource for understanding and coming to terms with a child’s sexual orientation and maintaining a dialogue between parent and child. With compassion and wisdom, Dohrenwend addresses parents' fears regarding what to say and what not to say, bigotry and social and religious prejudice, the legal issues facing LGBT individuals and how to understand homophobia. Most important, she shares how to communicate that, whatever happens with a child's sexual or gender orientation, parents will never withdraw their love.
SAME SEX PARENTING: Raising Happy Children in a Changing World
March 28th, 2016
Raising children is hard work, no matter how you look at the situation. Heterosexual parents, single parents, same-sex parents – they are all struggling with the same kinds of issues. Of course, the latter are also dealing with society and focusing on ensuring that their children are growing up at no perceived disadvantage. In fact, kids in same-sex households have certain advantages that their peers are lacking.
Useless Landscape, or A Guide for Boys
February 14th, 2012
ISBN 1555976050 (ISBN13: 9781555976057)
In D. A. Powell’s fifth book of poetry, the rollicking line he has made his signature becomes the taut, more discursive means to describing beauty, singing a dirge, directing an ironic smile, or questioning who in any given setting is the instructor and who is the pupil. This is a book that explores the darker side of divisions and developments, which shows how the interstitial spaces of boonies, backstage, bathhouse, or bar are locations of desire. With Powell’s witty banter, emotional resolve, and powerful lyricism, this collection demonstrates his exhilarating range.
LGBT-Parent Families: Innovations in Research and Implications for Practice
October 11th, 2012
ISBN 1461445558 (ISBN13: 9781461445555)
This first-rate handbook provides a comprehensive, astute, and accessible view of LGBT-parent families. With contributions from an interdisciplinary and international group of leading scholars, this volume covers every contemporary topic concerning LGBT families, including transgender parenting and LGBTQ youth with LGBTQ parents. Co-editors Drs. Goldberg and Allen have done an outstanding job in assembling experts to present overviews of the research and suggest applications for clinical work, policy, and advocacy. I highly recommend that this book be included in college and post-graduate social science courses on family life.
The Complete Lesbian and Gay Parenting Guide
September 14th, 2018
ISBN 1987915844 (ISBN13: 9781987915846)
In SWELLING WITH PRIDE: QUEER CONCEPTION AND ADOPTION STORIES, creative non-fiction writers celebrate LGBTQ2 families and the myriad of ways we embark upon our parenting journeys. These honest, heartfelt, unabashedly queer stories cover a gamut of issues and experiences, including the varied paths to queer conception—from DIY methods at home with the so-called “turkey baster” to pricey medical interventions at the fertility clinic—and the daunting task of choosing a sperm donor. This groundbreaking anthology portrays the journeys to LGBTQ2 parenthood that start or end with adoption and the countless hurdles that go along with it: from surviving the home study process and dealing with systemic homophobia to transitioning an adopted child into a new home.
Lesbian Pregnancy on A Budget - Two Moms' Tale of Having A Baby
June 23rd, 2012
Lesbians looking to have a baby often face a major issue when it comes to affordability. When you take two women who knew little about assisted conception, throw in a desire to have a baby, and add a few hundred days researching the best ways to conceive in a lesbian relationship, you get Sarah and Emma. Through our research, talking with other couples, and good old-fashioned trial and error, we managed to find a way for Sarah to get pregnant without breaking the budget. All in all, we spent less than a few hundred dollars, and were able to conceive a child the first time we put our final plan to task, completely bypassing the traditional, yet budget-breaking frozen sperm donor system.
On Being a Gay Parent: Making a Future Together
October 1st, 2007
ISBN 1596270616 (ISBN13: 9781596270619)
This practical, down-to-earth guide to being a gay Christian parent is filled with interesting stories, simple anecdotes, creative ideas, and thoughtful reflections, while raising up important issues facing gay-and lesbian-headed households in contemporary American society. Includes a list of resources helpful in addressing often-surprising issues, simple day- to-day tasks, and crucial decisions around being a gay or lesbian parent in today's world. "A truly faith-based family story, where love is what matters and the challenges of living openly and honestly are faced head on." - Jane Tully
Different Mothers: Sons and Daughters of Lesbians Talk about their Lives
November 1st, 1990
Ranging in age from six to 40, 38 sons and daughters of lesbians offer brief essays that could be valuable to like offspring, as well as to relatives and friends trying to understand the problems such children face. Homophobia, visited upon the children as well as their mothers, is the most commonly cited concern; some younger contributors feel isolated from their peers, and a couple of boys endure rejection from radical lesbian acquaintances. Despite such difficulties, many contributors enjoy close relationships with their mothers and are happy in their unconventional homes.
Helping Your Transgender Teen, 2nd Edition: A Guide for Parents
January 18th, 2018
ISBN 1784508195 (ISBN13: 9781784508197)
Going through puberty and adolescence presents unwelcome changes for many transgender youths, and this book provides advice to parents of transgender teens to help them understand what their child is experiencing and feeling during this challenging time. Addressing common fears and concerns that parents of transgender teens share, the book guides them through steps they can take with their child, including advice on hormones and surgery and how to transition socially. It addresses the recent increase in teens presenting with non-binary identities, and reflects major legal, social and medical developments regarding transgender issues. The author's insights are gained from his professional experience of providing psychotherapy regarding gender identity.
25 Habits of Gay Parents raising happy kids
March 28th, 2016
What is the secret of parenting? Is there such a thing? Would you like to know how gay parents with happy kids manage to raise them so well? Imagine that parenting was easy – isn’t that a nice fantasy? You wouldn’t have a hard time understanding your kids and you wouldn’t feel like you have no idea what you’re doing. Is it possible to not feel like a failure, as a parent? You will be happy to know that yes, it is possible, and parenting can become significantly easier. There are, indeed, gay parents who have managed to successfully raise happy and well-adjusted children. They have some secrets, but I managed to find out what they are and put them out into the world, so that any struggling parents can benefit from them.
Queer Parent's Primer
January 15th, 2001
ISBN 1572242264 (ISBN13: 9781572242265)
Through examples and interactive exercises, a gay parent's guide explains how to present the alternative family in public and private arenas and how to aid children in resisting gender stereotyping.
Gay Fathers, Their Children, and the Making of Kinship
January 5th, 2015
ISBN 0823266036 (ISBN13: 9780823266036)
While the topic of gay marriage and families continues to be popular in the media, few scholarly works focus on gay men with children. Based on ten years of fieldwork among gay families living in the rural, suburban, and urban area of the eastern United States, Gay Fathers, Their Children, and the Making of Kinship presents a beautifully written and meticulously argued ethnography of gay men and the families they have formed. In a culture that places a premium on biology as the founding event of paternity, Aaron Goodfellow poses the question: Can the signing of legal contracts and the public performances of care replace biological birth as the singular event marking the creation of fathers?
Gender Diverse Parenting: A Raising My Boy chick Collection
October 14th, 2015
Arwyn Daemyir, eloquently and persuasively presents both the whys and how’s of parenting with gender diversity in this collection of highly praised essays. Improving upon the limitations of yesteryear's "gender neutral parenting", Gender Diverse Parenting widens what is available to both us and our children as we navigate the broad spectrum of gender together as families. Rather than trying to coerce our children into uniform unisex genders, or eliminate gender altogether, Arwyn points to a world with freedom and diversity around gender. In creating this freedom, we create families where children who may reveal themselves to be lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or transgender don't have to worry about rejection or disappointment, but are secure and confident in themselves, their gender, and their sexuality.
Lesbian and Gay Parents and Their Children: Research on the Family Life Cycle
January 1st, 2010
ISBN 1433805367 (ISBN13: 9781433805363)
This title provides a comprehensive overview of the research on same-sex parenthood, exploring ways in which lesbian and gay parents resist, accommodate, and transform fundamental notions of gender, parenting, and family. It integrates both qualitative and quantitative research. It highlights understudied aspects of same-sex parenting, such as termination of couple relationships. It offers practical recommendations in every chapter.
Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents
February 10th, 2011
ISBN 069201229X (ISBN13: 9780692012291)
If you are the parent of a transgender teen, this book will help you understand what your child is feeling and experiencing. Irwin Krieger is a clinical social worker with many years of experience helping transgender teens. This book brings you the insights gained from his work with these teenagers and their families. According to the author, "Today's teens have access to a wealth of information on the internet. Teenagers who are wondering about gender identity soon find out what it means to be transgender or transsexual. Parents, on the other hand, know little about this topic. When a teenager declares he or she is transgender, parents fear that their child is confused and is choosing a life fraught with danger.
Momma Baby Mama: Story of a Knocked-Up Lesbian
May 22nd, 2011
ISBN 057808709X (ISBN13: 9780578087092)
Momma Baby Mama tells the hilarious yet serious story of Mindy and Katie's journey to motherhood. Stokes narrates the heart wrenching chronicle of three years in stifling hot, conservative Baptist Florida. From internet sperm purchases to home inseminations, from pre-natal yoga to hate-filled laws which limit queer families, this is a tale of commitment, challenge, longing and the love of two momma's for one incredibly lucky girl.
OMG My Son is GAY
July 8th, 2012
Gay teens attempt suicide four times as often as their heterosexual peers, according to The Trevor Project, an organization that runs a 24-hour helpline and an online community for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) kids. When a child gets rejected by his family, the odds are even nine times higher. Fear keeps many teens from coming out as gay. It takes time for them to come to terms with who they are.
Gay Parents/Straight Schools: Building Communication and Trust
June 4th, 1999
ISBN 0807738247 (ISBN13: 9780807738245)
Gay Parents/Straight Schools openly addresses the specific educational realities and needs of lesbian- and gay-headed families. It explores why gayness is perceived as such a threat, especially to the education of young children, when it has such potential to enrich the worldviews of both children and adults. Based on research that includes perspectives from all those involved, this pioneering book delves into such issues as communication between lesbian and gay parents and school staff homophobia at school and at home gender and gender role and the different understandings about role models curriculum planning that invites lesbian and gay parents into the school environment connecting children's family experiences with school experiences.
Mommy Queerest: Contemporary Rhetoric of Lesbian Maternal Identity
July 1st, 2002
ISBN 1558493557 (ISBN13: 9781558493551)
Reveals how lesbian mothers have been depicted in the media, the legal system, and the academy.
Gay Families & the Courts
September 1st, 2009
ISBN 0742562190 (ISBN13: 9780742562196)
Susan Gluck Mezey's newest book, Gay Families and the Courts, is a compelling examination of the role of the state and federal courts in furthering the goals of the gay and lesbian community. Unlike Mezey's earlier book, Queers in Court, this book evaluates the extent to which litigation is effective in advancing equal rights for gay families in which at least one member is gay as they seek to expand their opportunities and battle discrimination. Mezey shows how the courts address gay and lesbian rights and sexual orientation in schools and social organizations such as the Boy Scouts along with family-oriented problems such as marriage and parenthood.
A Song for Lost Angels
November 1st, 2013
ISBN 0988802422 (ISBN13: 9780988802421)
What makes a family? And what are the real "family values" that help keep parents and children whole and healthy? In A Song for Lost Angels, San Francisco writer Kevin Fisher-Paulson answers these questions by telling the intimate history of a family of two men plus triplets that came together suddenly one day and thrived for a year before being torn apart by groundless prejudice. And he tells this riveting story with grace, dignity, and a surprisingly generous dose of humor. "After a week of not sleeping, Papa and I got into the routine of baby care: feed the baby, burp the baby, change the baby, put the baby to bed, wash baby's clothes, rinse out baby's bottle, and make more formula, just about in time to start feeding the baby. Oh, and that process was in duplicate. In fact it was in duplicate with a third kid in the hospital, across the bay.
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Sons Talk About Their Gay Fathers: Life Curves
July 21st, 2003
ISBN 1560231785 (ISBN13: 9781560231783)
In this book, Andrew Gottlieb, author of Out of the Twilight: Fathers of Gay Men Speak, explores yet another side of the impact of homosexuality on families. He now looks at how sons react to learning that their fathers are gay, allowing us to see, over time, how this has changed their family relationships and their own lives. Simply and elegantly written, this psychoanalytically oriented qualitative research study is accessible to both the beginner and the more advanced researcher and practitioner. It draws from a wide range of literary, popular, and psychological sources and includes an interview guide, a reference section, and an index.
Families of Value: Personal Profiles of Pioneering Lesbian and Gay Parents
April 28th, 2005
ISBN 1560256389 (ISBN13: 9781560256380)
Millions of children in the United States have gay or lesbian parents, and the number of same-sex parents is increasing at an ever-expanding rate. But although many attitudes are changing, gay and lesbian parents and their children need protection and support as the heated cultural battle over same-sex unions continues to escalate. Families of Value offers a poignant defense of families with same-sex parents, and it does so primarily through the powerful use of real-life examples. Robert Bernstein, author of the acclaimed Straight Parents, Gay Children, presents intimate portraits of pioneer families with gay and lesbian parents who are leading the charge in the struggle to bring about social change.
Oddly Normal: One Family's Struggle to Help Their Teenage Son Come to Terms with His Sexuality
November 8th, 2012
ISBN 1592407285 (ISBN13: 9781592407286)
Three years ago, John Schwartz, a national correspondent at The New York Times, got the call that every parent hopes never to receive: his thirteen-year-old son, Joe, was in the hospital following a failed suicide attempt. After mustering the courage to come out to his classmates, Joe’s disclosure — delivered in a tirade about homophobic attitudes—was greeted with dismay and confusion by his fellow students. Hours later, he took an overdose of pills. Additionally, John and his wife, Jeanne, found that their son’s school was unable to address Joe’s special needs. Angry and frustrated, they initiated their own search for services and groups that could help Joe understand that he wasn’t alone.
Not Like Other Boys: Growing Up Gay: A Mother and Son Look Back
December 12th, 1991
ISBN 0595193889 (ISBN13: 9780595193882)
A complex, emotionally persuasive family portrait told by a son who knew he was gay but feared to divulge his secret and by a mother who thought he might be "different" but did not know for sure. Both suffered emotional isolation, unnecessary pain, and a deep yearning to reveal. Told in alternating voices, this frank, genuinely moving memoir chronicles the long journey mother and son took from concealment and shame to acceptance and love.
Parenting & Families
We Don't Exactly Get the Welcome Wagon: The Experiences of Gay and Lesbian Adolescents in Child Welfare Systems
April 23rd, 1998
ISBN 0231104553 (ISBN13: 9780231104555)
Drawing on over twenty years of child welfare experience and extensive interviews with 54 gay and lesbian young people who lived in out-of-home-care child welfare settings in three North American cities - Los Angeles, New York, and Toronto - Gerald Mallon presents narratives of marginalized young people trying to find the "right fit." The first comprehensive examination of the experiences of gay and lesbian youths in the child welfare system, We Don't Exactly Get the Welcome Wagon makes solid recommendations to social work practitioners as well as to policy makers about how they can provide a competent practice for gay and lesbian adolescents, and offers a methods chapter which will be useful in classroom instruction.
Confessions of a Fairy's Daughter: Growing Up with a Gay Dad
May 7th, 2013
ISBN 034580757X (ISBN13: 9780345807571)
A moving memoir about growing up with a gay father in the 1980s, and a tribute to the power of truth, humor, acceptance and familial love. Alison Wearing led a largely carefree childhood until she learned, at the age of 12, that her family was a little more complex than she had realized. Sure her father had always been unusual compared to the other dads in the neighborhood he loved to bake croissants, wear silk pajamas around the house, and skip down the street singing songs from Gilbert and Sullivan operettas. But when he came out of the closet in the 1970s, when homosexuality was still a cardinal taboo, it was a shock to everyone in the quiet community of Peterborough, Ontario, especially to his wife and three children.
Labor of Love: The Story of One Man's Extraordinary Pregnancy
November 4th, 2008
ISBN 1580052878 (ISBN13: 9781580052870)
Thomas Beatie electrified the world in April 2008 with his announcement that he was seven months pregnant and due to give birth in July. The news made headlines across the globe, but it's only one chapter in a fascinating saga. Labor of Love reveals Beatie's unique life experiences; his less-than-idyllic childhood in Hawaii, his feelings of being a young man trapped in the body of a woman, his fight to conceive a child, and the obstacles surrounding the delivery. This astonishing narrative permits an intimate look at a family that refuses to let other people's definitions of family deter them from creating one on their own terms.
Buying Dad: One Woman's Search for the Perfect Sperm Donor
July 15th, 2003
ISBN 1555837557 (ISBN13: 9781555837556)
What do two nice Jewish girls do when they want to start a family? They can marry two nice Jewish boys, or, if they happen to be lesbians, they can buy sperm online from California! Buying Dad is a hilarious, edgy, first--person chronicle of a year in the life of a woman engaged in a very alternative family-planning experience. Peeling back the layers of self-indulgence accumulated in 30-odd years as a self-proclaimed gay, childless, albeit happy neurotic, Harlyn Aizley takes the reader on one of the most personal, intimate and utterly female journeys any woman, gay or straight, can make-that of becoming a mother. Aizley's story begins with the search for sperm-known or unknown donor? Delivered on dry ice or in a nitrogen tank?
A Family by Any Other Name: Exploring Queer Relationships
April 8th, 2014
ISBN 1771510544 (ISBN13: 9781771510547)
At no other time in history have lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered (LGBT) relationships and families been more visible or numerous. A Family by Any Other Name recognizes and celebrates this advance by exploring what “family” means to people today. The anthology includes a wide range of perspectives on queer relationships and families—there are stories on coming out, same-sex marriage, adopting, having biological kids, polyamorous relationships, families without kids, divorce, and dealing with the death of a spouse, as well as essays by straight writers about having a gay parent or child.
My Father's Keeper: The Story of a Gay Son and His Aging Parents
May 1st, 2006
ISBN 0807079650 (ISBN13: 9780807079652)
My Father's Keeper is the moving story of Jonathan Silin, a gay man in midlife who learned to care for his elderly parents as a series of life-threatening illnesses forced them to make the difficult transition from being independent to being reliant on their son. Their new needs and unrelenting demands brought them into intimate daily contact and radically transformed what had been a difficult and emotionally fraught relationship.
Gay, Lesbian and Heterosexual Adoptive Families: Family Relationships, Child Adjustment and Adopters' Experiences
April 1st, 2013
ISBN 1907585656 (ISBN13: 9781907585654)
Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son
December 31st, 1995
ISBN 0062511238 (ISBN13: 9780062511232)
Bobby Griffith was an all-American boy ...and he was gay. Faced with an irresolvable conflict-for both his family and his religion taught him that being gay was "wrong"-Bobby chose to take his own life. Prayers for Bobby, nominated for a 1996 Lambda Literary Award, is the story of the emotional journey that led Bobby to this tragic conclusion. But it is also the story of Bobby's mother, a fearful churchgoer who first prayed that her son would be "healed," then anguished over his suicide, and ultimately transformed herself into a national crusader for gay and lesbian youth. As told through Bobby's poignant journal entries and his mother's reminiscences, Prayers for Bobby is at once a moving personal story, a true profile in courage, and a call to arms to parents everywhere.
Which One of You is the Mother?
August 24th, 2015
After fifteen years of up-all-night gay disco dance parties, Sean O'Donnell and his longtime partner Todd decided to trade in their leather chaps for mom jeans and start a family. In August 2012 the not-so ambiguously gay duo walked into a Pittsburgh-based adoption agency and said, "We'd like a child, please." For the next several months they attended parenting classes, subjected themselves to probing FBI background checks, and completed enough paperwork to reforest the whole of the Amazon River basin.
Gay Family Guide: A short comprehensive guide for the gay parent through surrogacy and adoption
May 26th, 2014
You want to have a modern family like Elton John or Ricky Martin? You desire to have babies like Neil Patrick Harris? You don't know where to start? Which country? Are you overwhelmed by the laws? This small awesome guide to surrogacy and adoption for same-sex couples and single gays is all you need! Although it focuses mostly on gay men, lesbians will find it extremely useful too!
An Excellent Choice: Panic and Joy on My Solo Path to Motherhood
June 26th, 2018
ISBN 0571327478 (ISBN13: 9780571327478)
When British journalist, memoirist, and New York-transplant Emma Brockes decides to become pregnant, she quickly realizes that, being single, 37, and in the early stages of a same-sex relationship, she's going to have to be untraditional about it. From the moment she decides to stop "futzing" around, have her eggs counted, and "get cracking"; through multiple trials of IUI, which she is intrigued to learn can be purchased in bulk packages, just like Costco; to the births of her twins, which her girlfriend gamely documents with her iPhone and selfie-stick, Brockes is never any less than bluntly and bracingly honest about her extraordinary journey to motherhood.
How To Grow Your Gay
July 1st, 2017
How To Grow Your Gay is a guidebook for parents, family, & friends of LGBTQ+ people. Being a parent can be very challenging on its own, even more so if you have a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or gender non-conforming child, and being a friend or family member of an LGBT person can be just as confusing or worrying. With chapters on talking to your child or friends about sexual and mental health, what it's like to go to an LGBTQ+ youth group, the science behind gender, and much more, "How To Grow Your Gay" will help you work through the questions you have about the gay & transgender community. Featuring interviews with Planned Parenthood educators, a counselor specializing in LGBTQ+ youth, and the leader of a youth group, this book will teach you a vast array of new things about a diverse community.
The Other Mother: A Lesbian's Fight for Her Daughter
July 20th, 1999
ISBN 0299164942 (ISBN13: 9780299164942)
On a spring day in 1993, Nancy Abrams helped her daughter dress for day care, packed her lunch, and said good-bye. Next she drove to court, where she learned that in the eyes of the law she was nothing more than “a biological stranger” to the child she helped bring into the world and raise. That was the last time she would see her daughter or hear her voice for five years. The Other Mother begins as Abrams and her female lover decide to start a family together. With giddy anticipation, they search for a sperm donor, shop for baby clothes and crib, and attend childbirth classes. But despite their high hopes, the relationship begins to fall apart, and they separate when their daughter is a toddler.
The Pink Guide to Adoption for Lesbians and Gay Men
September 3rd, 2009
ISBN 1907585591 (ISBN13: 9781907585593)
My Son Wears Heels: One Mom's Journey from Clueless to Kickass
September 6th, 2016
ISBN 0299310604 (ISBN13: 9780299310608)
In 1992, Julie Tarney’s only child, Harry, told her, “Inside my head I’m a girl.” He was two years old.Julie had no idea what that meant. She felt disoriented. Wasn’t it her role to encourage and support her child? Surely, she had to set some limits to his self-expression—or did she? Would he be bullied? Could she do the right thing? What was the right thing? The internet was no help, because there was no internet. And there were zero books for a mom scrambling to understand a toddler who had definite ideas about his gender, regardless of how Nature had endowed him.
The Velveteen Father: An Unexpected Journey to Parenthood
May 11th, 1999
ISBN 0345437098 (ISBN13: 9780345437099)
A beautifully written memoir about a gay man becoming an adoptive parent, "The Velveteen Father" goes right to the heart of the question of what it means to have children and what it means to be an adult.
Waiting in the Wings: Portrait of a Queer Motherhood
September 1st, 1997
ISBN 1563410923 (ISBN13: 9781563410925)
Cherrie Moraga, the celebrated Chicana lesbian writer, has crafted a jewel of a book in Waiting In The Wings: Portrait of a Queer Motherhood. This is the story of "one small human being's struggle for survival", the author's two-and-one-half pound premature baby boy. While the specifics belong to Moraga and her loved ones -- her large close-knit biological clan; her long-term partner; the child's father -- the tale is told in common with every woman who has experienced the wonder and terror of pregnancy, the trauma of a child's near-death. What is uncommon is that the mother is a lesbian, a writer, a Chicana -- all in the same breath of her storytelling.
Becoming an Ally to the Gender-Expansive Child: A Guide for Parents and Carers
November 21st, 2017
ISBN 1784503053 (ISBN13: 9781784503055)
When Anna Bianchi's grandchild asked, "Nanny, you do know I'm a girl don't you?", Anna recognized this as a pivotal moment in their relationship. She also understood that to fully support her grandchild, who had been declared a boy at birth, she needed to examine her own attitudes, beliefs and assumptions about gender. With reassuring honesty, depth and openness, she draws on her own experience, as well as interviews with gender expansive children and their families, to map out the path to becoming an ally. She explains why a child dressing, playing and communicating in gender fluid ways may feel provocative, how culture reinforces this and how parents and caregivers are frequently left feeling confused and isolated.
Politics of the Heart: A Lesbian Parenting Anthology
December 31st, 1987
ISBN 0932379354 (ISBN13: 9780932379351)
More than 60 contributors probe the complexities of lesbian parenting.
Whose Child Cries: Children of Gay Parents Talk About Their Lives
November 1st, 1983
ISBN 0915190397 (ISBN13: 9780915190393)
Looks at five families headed by gay adults and shares the experiences, feelings, and opinions of the children growing up in homosexual homes.
Families of Value
March 21st, 1998
ISBN 0306458632 (ISBN13: 9780306458637)
This collection contains stories from gay and lesbian parents from all walks of life, told in their own words, about the joys and particular struggles of parenthood. It is an inspiring and uplifting celebration of diversity, as well as an important contribution to the ongoing debate over "family values" that continues to rage in this country and around the world.
Family Pride: What LGBT Families Should Know about Living in Isolated, Unwelcoming, or Hostile Communities
September 4th, 2012
ISBN 080700197X (ISBN13: 9780807001974)
The overwhelming success of Dan Savage’s “It Gets Better” YouTube project aimed at queer youth highlighted that despite the progress made in gay rights, LGBT people are still at high risk of being victimized. While the national focus remains on the mistreatment of gay people in schools, the reality is that LGBT families also face hostility in various settings—professional, recreational, and social. This is especially evident in rural communities, where the majority of LGBT families live, isolated from support networks more commonly found in urban spaces.
Mommy Man: How I Went from Mild-Mannered Geek to Gay Superdad
May 8th, 2014
ISBN 1589799224 (ISBN13: 9781589799226)
As a teenager growing up in the 1980s, all Jerry Mahoney wanted was a nice, normal sham marriage: 2.5 kids and a frustrated, dissatisfied wife living in denial of her husband s sexuality. Hey, why not? It seemed much more attainable and fulfilling than the alternative coming out of the closet and making peace with the fact that he’d never have a family at all. Twenty years later, Jerry is living with his long-term boyfriend, Drew, and they’re ready to take the plunge into parenthood. But how? Adoption? Foster parenting? Kidnapping? What they want most of all is a great story to tell their future kid about where he or she came from.
Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians: How to Stay Sane and Care for Yourself from Pre-Conception Through Birth
April 1st, 1999
ISBN 157344216X (ISBN13: 9781573442169)
The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians covers everything you need to make the thrilling and challenging journey to motherhood: from choosing a donor to tracking fertility to signing the right papers on the dotted lines. Rachel Pepper's lively, easy-to-read guide is the first place to go for up-to-date information and sage advice on everything from sex in the sixth month to negotiating family roles. Why a second edition? When the acclaimed first edition appeared, the author's daughter was only a few months old. This new edition takes into account the parenting know-how Pepper has developed over the intervening six years, as well as the evolving legal status of lesbian parents, and the increasing importance of the Internet for information on fertility, sperm banks, and donors.
Gay and Lesbian Parents
October 1st, 2009
ISBN 1422214958 (ISBN13: 9781422214954)
Today society has many different kinds of families, and the challenges they face are all unique. The real-life families in this series offer their thoughts about what they have learned from their situations.
Unconditional Love: A Guide to Navigating the Joys and Challenges of Being a Grandparent Today
March 6th, 2018
A beautiful meditation on the joys of being a grandparent and a practical guide to help you and your adult children make the most of your relationship with a grandchild. For many grandparents, a grandchild offers a second chance to become the parent they didn’t have the time or the energy to be when raising their own children. Being a grandparent, family relationships expert Jane Isay argues, is the opportunity to turn missed opportunities into delight. Drawing on her personal experience, dozens of interviews, and the latest findings in psychology, Isay shows how a grandparent can use his or her unique perspective and experience to create a deep and lasting bond that will echo throughout a grandchild’s life.
The Right to Be Parents: LGBT Families and the Transformation of Parenthood
May 14th, 2012
ISBN 081473930X (ISBN13: 9780814739303)
In 1975, California courts stripped a lesbian mother of her custody rights because she was living openly with another woman. Twenty years later, the Virginia Supreme Court did the same thing to another lesbian mother. In ordering that children be separated from their mothers, these courts ruled that it was not possible for a woman to be both a good parent and a lesbian. The Right to be Parents is the first book to provide a detailed history of how LGBT parents have turned to the courts to protect and defend their relationships with their children. Carlos A. Ball chronicles the stories of LGBT parents who, in seeking to gain legal recognition of and protection for their relationships with their children, have fundamentally changed how American law defines and regulates parenthood.
Raising Rosie: Our Story of Parenting an Intersex Child
July 19th, 2018
ISBN 1785927671 (ISBN13: 9781785927676)
When their daughter Rosie was born, Eric and Stephani Lohman found themselves thrust into a situation they were not prepared for. Born intersex - a term that describes people who are born with a variety of physical characteristics that do not fit neatly into traditional conceptions about male and female bodies - Rosie's parents were pressured to consent to normalizing surgery on Rosie, without being offered any alternatives despite their concerns. Part memoir, part guidebook, this powerful book tells the authors' experience of refusing to have Rosie operated on and how they raised a child who is intersex.
Grandmothering: Real Life in Real Families
September 19th, 2013
Grandmothering: Real Life in Real Families, offers an in-depth look at the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of grandmothers today, based on more than 80 interviews. The book covers giving advice and help to the grandchildren’s parents, changes in parenting over the generations, taking care of grandchildren, getting along with the other grandparents, money and gifts, travel with children, passing on culture and family history, how and when to say no, and more. It’s about all kinds of families, including adoptive families, gay and lesbian parents, stepfamilies and multiracial families. See the book’s website, grandmothering.net to read an excerpt.
Raised by Unicorns: Stories from People with LGBTQ+ Parents
June 12th, 2018
ISBN 1627782575 (ISBN13: 9781627782579)
In recent years, the world has been saturated by endless blogs, articles, and books devoted to the subject of LGBTQ+ parenting. On the flip side, finding stories written by the children of LGBTQ+ parents is akin to searching for a needle in a haystack. Now that the world is more accepting than ever of non-traditional families, it's time to create a literary space for this not-so-unique, shared, but completely individual experience. In Raised by Unicorns: Stories from People with LGBTQ+ Parents, Frank Lowe has carefully edited an anthology that reflects on the upbringing of children in many different forms of LGBTQ+ families.
Parent Deleted: A Mother's Fight for Her Right to Parent
August 8th, 2017
An acclaimed spokesperson for equality at the helm of And Baby, a pioneer magazine, radio show, and TV series on alternative parenting, Michelle Darné found herself at once callously erased from the lives of her children and silenced by the law. Parent Deleted is a gripping tale of one non-biological, lesbian mother’s fight for her children—an intimate, infuriating, and infectious story of perseverance, sacrifice, and hope in the face of debilitating adversity. And it is a courageous, disturbing, and necessary exposé of a likely emergent social justice frontier: the rights of all children to be with their parents, whether they are biologically linked, straight, gay, prepared or knocked up, perfect spouses or fallible ones.
When Your Gay or Lesbian Child Marries: A Guide for Parents
January 14th, 2016
ISBN 1442254181 (ISBN13: 9781442254183)
Massachusetts became the first state in the country to legalize same-sex marriage in 2004, and after the landmark decision of Obergefell v. Hodges in 2015, same-sex marriage is legal in all fifty states. More than 70,000 same-sex couples have married in the U.S. Although these couples have the right to marry, it is not without its costs to their families, particularly to their relationships with their parents. Some parents may not accept their child s decisions; others don t understand how marriage may be different for their children or the obstacles that they may face in being part of a same-sex union. This book examines how same-sex marriage changes the relationships between parents and their gay or lesbian adult children.
She Looks Just Like You: A Memoir of (Nonbiological Lesbian) Motherhood
May 1st, 2010
ISBN 0807004693 (ISBN13: 9780807004692)
As a midwestern, station wagon-driving, stay-at-home mom and as a nonbiological lesbian mother Miller both defines parenthood-including neurotic convictions that her child was chronically ill and the muddled confusion of sleeplessness. But unlike most mothers, she experienced pregnancy and birth only vicariously. Unlike biological parents, she had to stand before a judge to adopt her own daughter. And unlike most straight parents, she wondered how to respond when strangers gushed, "I bet Daddy's proud," or "She has your eyes."
You Are You
April 7th, 2015
ISBN 3868285407 (ISBN13: 9783868285406)
You Are You documents an annual weekend summer camp for gender-nonconforming children and their families. This camp offers a temporary safe haven where children can freely express their interpretations of gender alongside their parents and siblings without feeling the need to look over their shoulders.
Lesbian and Gay Parenting Handbook: Creating and Raising Our Families
May 1st, 1993
ISBN 0060969296 (ISBN13: 9780060969295)
A much needed book that addresses the many questions and important issues associated with lesbian and gay parenting, by a well-known psychotherapist and lesbian parent.
Fatherhood for Gay Men
June 16th, 2003
ISBN 1560233877 (ISBN13: 9781560233879)
Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad is the story of one man's journey down the road less traveled--a single gay man adopting and raising his two sons. Author Kevin McGarry recounts his passage into parenthood after years of having his natural fathering instincts stifled by the limits--real and perceived--of being gay. This unique book details the emotional, financial, practical, and social realities of the adoption process for gay men.
Rad Dad: Dispatches from the Frontiers of Fatherhood
September 1st, 2011
ISBN 1604864818 (ISBN13: 9781604864816)
Combining the best of the award-winning magazine Rad Dad and the Daddy Dialectic blog, this compilation features the best essays written for fathers by a multitude of dads from different walks of life. Bestselling authors, writers, musicians, and others collaborate on this collection that focuses on some of the modern complexities of fatherhood. Touching on topics such as the brutalities, beauties, and politics of the birth experience; the challenges of parenting on an equal basis with mothers; the tests faced by transgendered and gay fathers; the emotions of sperm donation; and parental confrontations with war, violence, racism, and incarceration, this anthology leaves no stone unturned in the discussion of being a dad.
Lesbian and Gay Foster Care and Adoption
July 19th, 2018
ISBN 184905519X (ISBN13: 9781849055192)
The authors outline how the experience of adopting of fostering has changed for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people over the years, outlining some of the major changes in policy, and what the research can tell us about LGBT parenting and adopted and fostered children. They interview families involved at different stages of the fostering and adoption process, from those undergoing assessments through to the experienced foster carers and adopters who were interviewed for the first edition of this book 20 years previously and describe parenting adolescent and adult children. While the number of LGBT people adopting or fostering has increased since then, some of the very real challenges still endure: encounters with social stigma, racism, homophobia, and discriminatory policies.
Parents Matter: Parents' Relationships with Lesbian Daughters and Gay Sons
December 31st, 1987
ISBN 0930044916 (ISBN13: 9780930044916)
The mother of a gay son, Muller makes two key assertions in this simply written and sympathetic exploration of families with homosexual children. The first is that lesbians probably have greater difficulty being accepted by their parents, which she attributes to rigid sex-role definitions that keep some people from approving of single, successful women. Second, she contends that Freudian and neo-Freudian psychology have sent the negative message that the combination of a dominant mother and weak father "causes" gay children. The author's discussion of these arguments is strengthened by research and interviews with 71 parents, daughters and sons, and she concludes that parents' attitudes matter greatly to their homosexual children because gay people are "harshly judged by the larger society."
Don't Call Me Daddy: A Lesbian Mom on Sperm Donors, Not Being Pregnant, and the Ups and Downs of Being the Other Mother
May 28th, 2007
ISBN 1580051707 (ISBN13: 9781580051705
When lesbian partners decide to have a baby, they have to deal with a few things first: 1. Getting pregnant will require inviting a third party into the relationship, and 2. Only one of the women in the couple will actually get pregnant. Calla Devlin is the other mother the one who didn't conceive and deliver, whose maternity leave was suspect, and who's sick of people calling her Daddy.
Growing Up in a Lesbian Family: Effects on Child Development
March 7th, 1997
ISBN 1572301708 (ISBN13: 9781572301702)
Ongoing legal battles over same-sex marriage have drawn increasing public attention to the question of whether lesbian and gay families can raise happy, healthy children. Opponents of the legal recognition of homosexual unions have based their arguments in part on the premise that children brought up by parents of the same sex face significant social and psychological disadvantages. This pioneering volume provides an objective and long overdue look at the experiences of the children themselves. Presenting a unique longitudinal study of 25 children raised in lesbian mother families, and a comparison group raised by single heterosexual mothers, the book lays out the developmental effects of growing up in a same-sex household/m-/and confronts a range of myths and stereotypes along the way.
Blood Strangers: A Memoir
April 13th, 2010
ISBN 1597141305 (ISBN13: 9781597141307)
A powerful and nuanced tale about the search for family Blood Strangers is a captivating, multigenerational story of an alternative family. In her memoir, Katherine A. Briccetti writes about three generations of missing fathers: her father s closed adoption in the 1930s, her own adoption by her stepfather in the 1960s, and finally, the second-parent adoption of her sons by her partner in the 1990s. Fascinated from an early age by the holes in her family tree, Briccetti takes it upon herself to search for her father s birth parents. As her search begins to reveal more tantalizing clues about the family she never knew, she is forced to confront her own tenuous relationship with her two fathers the father who gave her up as a little girl and the stepfather she struggles to connect with in her adult years. But when she forms her own family with Pam, her longtime partner, Briccetti learns that families can be made under many different circumstances.
Always My Child: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered, or Questioning Son or Daughter
August 15th, 2002
ISBN 0743226496 (ISBN13: 9780743226493)
Parents whose children are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or who are going through a "questioning phase" are often in the dark about what their children face every day. As a result, offering support that will comfort and fortify them feels like solving a puzzle with missing pieces.In Always My Child, Kevin Jennings supplies the missing pieces by guiding parents through the world their child inhabits. He explains what these teens often encounter -- teasing and harassment -- and offers solutions for parents who want to better understand their LGBTQ children and learn how to protect their self-esteem.
Reinventing the Family: Lesbian and Gay Parents
August 16th, 1994
ISBN 0517884860 (ISBN13: 9780517884867)
The first thorough investigation of the joys, challenges, and issues facing Lesbian and gay men who are choosing to be parents, fighting for custody, and changing how we all think of "family values." From what to name your child to legal and psychological issues, here is a thoughtful guide to raising a healthy child in a homophobic world.
Gay Adoption: How to Adopt as a Same-Sex Couple ~ An Essential Guide to Same Sex Adoption and Parenting
July 27th, 2015
Throughout history, adoption has brought so much joy to couples who are biologically unable to have children yet still desire to raise a child and start a family. Same-sex couples are no exception to how any of this works: As a couple, the bond between you and your partner will grow stronger as you fulfill your responsibilities as parents. And as an individual, having a child will change you in ways that you couldn’t have imagined. By loving another person unconditionally, you will mature into a better version of yourself.
September 13th, 2013
Homosexuality: A Study by the Parents of a Gay Son is the result of the steadfast devotion and love of two parents. When their son came out of the proverbial closet they chose to embark on a research journey of more than 11 years, during which they found out what science and the Bible had to say about homosexuality.
Not the Son He Expected: Gay Men Talk Candidly About Their Relationship with Their Father
November 23rd, 2017
Not the Son He Expected explores the powerful and emotionally complex bonds between gay sons and their fathers. Drawn from over eighty interviews with gay men, including a Commander in the US Navy, a well-known gay porn film director, a former Catholic priest, an Army Captain booed at the 2011 Republican primary debate while asking a question about same-sex marriage, a South Dakota rodeo cowboy, a social worker working with Pulse nightclub survivors, a man whose father through gender reassignment surgery has now become his second mother, a New Yorker who underwent years of reparative therapy and is today the foremost advocate for banning the practice, and more.
Lesbian, Gay and Queer Parenting: Families, Intimacies, Genealogies
October 12th, 2011
How are new relationalities formed? By what methods are kinship/family claims made? How are gender and race made relevant to subjectivities? How does state welfare discipline parenting? Are new forms of intimacy possible? This book investigates such questions through detailed analysis of stories, films, photographs, and policy debates, looking at the ways in which identities, subjectivities and connections are taken up in their everyday complexity. Based upon original research with gay and lesbian parents.
The Family Heart: A Memoir Of When Our Son Came Out
May 20th, 1994
ISBN 0201624508 (ISBN13: 9780201624502)
American Book Award winner Robb Forman Dew, known for her breathtaking ability to depict family love in all its ambiguity and pain, reaches deep into her own heart to write the story of finding out her son is gay.
A Gay Couple's Journey Through Surrogacy: Intended Fathers
April 28th, 2006
ISBN 0789028204 (ISBN13: 9780789028204)
Surrogacy's been coldly and unjustifiably called "baby buying" and "baby selling" and many states have banned it. But those insensitive terms do not tell the inspiring tale of a couple fiercely wanting to become parents. A Gay Couple's Experience with Surrogacy: Intended Fathers is the moving true story of a gay couple's decision to have their child through a surrogate mother. With humor and emotion, the author traces their intense experience from the initial decision to have a child through surrogacy on through the entire pregnancy and birth.
Who's Your Daddy? And Other Writings on Queer Parenting
April 27th, 2009
ISBN 1894549783 (ISBN13: 9781894549783)
The essays and interviews in Who's Your Daddy? give new meaning to our understanding of queer parenting. Contributors bring into sharp focus the multiple and meaningful ways that LGBTQ people are choosing to become parents and raise children. This is without a doubt a timely and important.
My Miserable, Lonely, Lesbian Pregnancy
April 28th, 2008
ISBN 1573443158 (ISBN13: 9781573443159)
In this memoir of her 40 weeks and five days in hell, Andrea Askowitz takes an unflinching look at her pregnant life from struggling with hormones to poor body image to a self-imposed exile from family to take us on a ride through the turbulence of single lesbian motherhood. Along the way we meet her liberal parents as they struggle with their daughter's choices, the lover she longs to reconnect with who goes M.I.A. before the pregnancy, the friends who turn out to be no help at all and strangers who offer up some unlikely kindness. Andrea presents herself real, raw, impossibly cranky yet deeply touching with her self-deprecating dark sense of humor that will make you wince or better yet send you into uncontrollable fits of laughter.
Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is
March 30th, 2004
ISBN 0060527587 (ISBN13: 9780060527587)
Abigail Garner was five years old when her parents divorced, and her dad came out as gay. Like the millions of children growing up in these families today, she often found herself in the middle of the political and moral debates surrounding lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) parenting. Drawing on a decade of community organizing, and interviews with more than fifty grown sons and daughters of LGBT parents, Garner addresses such topics as coming out to children, facing homophobia at school, co-parenting with ex-partners, the impact of AIDS, and the children's own sexuality.
Gay Dads: Transitions to Adoptive Fatherhood
July 23rd, 2012
ISBN 0814732240 (ISBN13: 9780814732243)
When gay couples become parents, they face a host of questions and issues that their straight counterparts may never have to consider. How important is it for each partner to have a biological tie to their child? How will they become parents: will they pursue surrogacy, or will they adopt? Will both partners legally be able to adopt their child? Will they have to hide their relationship to speed up the adoption process? Will one partner be the primary breadwinner? And how will their lives change, now that the presence of a child has made their relationship visible to the rest of the world?
Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? Confessions of a Gay Dad
June 5th, 2012
ISBN 1451660731 (ISBN13: 9781451660739)
In 2005, Dan Bucatinsky and his partner, Don Roos, found themselves in an L.A. delivery room, decked out in disposable scrubs from shower cap to booties, to welcome their adopted baby girl—launching their frantic yet memorable adventures into fatherhood. Two and a half years later, the same birth mother—a heroically generous, pack-a-day teen with a passion for Bridezilla marathons and Mountain Dew—delivered a son into the couple’s arms. In Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? Bucatinsky moves deftly from sidesplitting stories about where kids put their fingers to the realization that his athletic son might just grow up to be straight and finally to a reflection on losing his own father just as he’s becoming one. Bucatinsky’s soul-baring and honest stories tap into that all-encompassing, and very human, hunger to be a parent—and the life-changing and often ridiculous road to getting there.
Gay Dads: A Celebration of Fatherhood
May 26th, 2003
ISBN 1585423335 (ISBN13: 9781585423330)
An evolution has quietly been occurring in the world of parenting. Recent surveys reveal that millions of children have found loving homes either by being born to, or adopted by, gay men. This book is a celebration of these remarkable new families. Gay Dads includes twenty-five personal accounts from men describing their unique journeys to fatherhood and the struggles and successes they have experienced as they raise their children. This is the first book to provide such an expansive exploration of this extraordinary new family unit.
Pregnant Butch: Nine Long Months Spent in Drag
March 18th, 2014
ISBN 1593765401 (ISBN13: 9781593765408)
First pregnancy can be a fraught, uncomfortable experience for any woman, but for resolutely butch lesbian Teek Thomasson, it is exceptionally challenging: Teek identifies as a masculine woman in a world bent on associating pregnancy with a cult of uber-femininity. Teek wonders, “Can butches even get pregnant?” Of course, as she and her pragmatic femme girlfriend Vee discover, they can. But what happens when they do? Written and illustrated by A.K. Summers, and based on her own pregnancy, Pregnant Butch strives to depict this increasingly common, but still underrepresented experience of queer pregnancy with humor and complexity.
Coming Out to Parents: A Two-Way Survival Guide for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents
March 1st, 1984
ISBN 0829809570 (ISBN13: 9780829809572)
"Among the most important gay and lesbian books". -- American Bookseller Revised and updated edition of a bestselling classic in the field. Examines coming out in the age of AIDS as well as the latest religious views.
The M Word: Conversations about Motherhood
April 15th, 2014
ISBN 0864924879 (ISBN13: 9780864924872)
A Dropped Threads-style anthology, assembling original and inspiring works by some of Canada's best younger female writers -- such as Heather Birrell, Saleema Nawaz, Susan Olding, Diana Fitzgerald Bryden, Carrie Snyder, and Alison Pick -- The M Word asks everyday women and writers, some of whom are on the unconventional side of motherhood, to share their emotions and tales of maternity. Whether they are stepmothers or mothers who have experienced abortion, infertility, adoption, or struggles with having more or less children, all these writers are women who have faced down motherhood on the other side of the white picket fence.
Lesbian and Gay Families Speak Out: Understanding the Joys and Challenges of Diverse Family Life
April 12th, 2001
ISBN 0738204668 (ISBN13: 9780738204666)
"An important book whose time has come!"-Adele Starr, First President of PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) National, and Larry Starr, Co-Founder of PFLAG, Los Angeles, California With an estimated six to fourteen million children living with a gay or lesbian parent, there is a real need for accurate information for and about the realities of these families. With honesty and compassion, Lesbian and Gay Families Speak Out explores the variety of issues they face: from interpersonal relationships and sexual and psychological development, to coming out, dealing with prejudice, and finding a spiritual foundation.
Let's Get This Straight: The Ultimate Handbook for Youth with LGBTQ Parents
September 7th, 2010
ISBN 1580053335 (ISBN13: 9781580053334)
Let’s Get This Straight reaches out to young people with one or more gay, lesbian, bi, or trans parents to provide them with the tools to combat homophobia, take pride in their alternative family structures, and speak out against injustice. This short but thorough book profiles forty-five diverse youth and young adults, all of whom voice their opinions and provide advice for other youth living in LGBTQ households. Let’s Get This Straight also includes probing questions, fun activities, engaging quizzes, and reflective journal sections for youth to share their feelings and experiences about having a gay parent.
Swelling with Pride: Queer Conception and Adoption Stories
September 14th, 2018
ISBN 1987915844 (ISBN13: 9781987915846)
In SWELLING WITH PRIDE: QUEER CONCEPTION AND ADOPTION STORIES, creative non-fiction writers celebrate LGBTQ2 families and the myriad of ways we embark upon our parenting journeys. These honest, heartfelt, unabashedly queer stories cover a gamut of issues and experiences, including the varied paths to queer conception—from DIY methods at home with the so-called “turkey baster” to pricey medical interventions at the fertility clinic—and the daunting task of choosing a sperm donor. This groundbreaking anthology portrays the journeys to LGBTQ2 parenthood that start or end with adoption and the countless hurdles that go along with it: from surviving the home study process and dealing with systemic homophobia to transitioning an adopted child into a new home.
Gay & Lesbian Parenting Choices
April 30th, 2006
Creating a family is one of the greatest joys a couple can have, but gay and lesbian couples face unique challenges when they wish to become parents together. Gay & Lesbian Parenting Choices provides a complete explanation of the many ways gay or lesbian couples can create a family and the legal hoops they must jump through as part of the process. Written by an attorney in an-easy-to-understand style, this guide provides a comprehensive look at the options available to gay couples and offers advice and information on how best to proceed. Different types of adoptions international, domestic agency, state agency, private, and facilitator-led are discussed, in addition to open versus closed adoptions.
Pride and Joy: A Guide for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans Parents
February 23rd, 2017
There have always been lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans (LGBT) parents. But now there is a 'gayby boom'. Changes in social attitudes, the law and medical technology mean that more LGBT people are becoming parents and living proud and open family lives. Yet there are still few role models.
Family Outing: What Happened When I Found Out My Mother Was Gay
June 16th, 2008
ISBN 1559708719 (ISBN13: 9781559708715)
Like most teenagers, Troy Johnson was obsessed with sex, but his coming of age took a sharp turn when in the era before Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell he learned his mother was a lesbian. When he found out her secret (during a surprise visit from her ex-lover) his head spun. Does that mean Mom cruises schoolyards? Does that mean I have the gay gene? If I sleep with enough women, will it create an anti-gay force field around me? With searing wit and candor, FAMILY OUTING details the metamorphosis of an average American kid from mom-hating bigot to Pride-going breeder, taking head on the politics of sexual identity, the delusions of suburban delinquency, and the salvation of getting a clue. You won’t find a bowl of Chicken Soup for the Kids of Gays here just the truth, served up with a side of sarcasm and extra laughs.
Raising the Transgender Child: A Complete Guide for Parents, Families, and Caregivers
November 22nd, 2016
ISBN 1580056350 (ISBN13: 9781580056359)
Written by top experts in the field, Raising the Transgender Child offers much-needed answers to all the questions parents and other adults ask about raising and caring for transgender and gender diverse children: Is this just a phase? Did I do something to cause this? How do we protect these children? Who should I tell, and how? Will anyone love my child?
Journey to Same-Sex Parenthood: Firsthand Advice, Tips and Stories from Lesbian and Gay Couples
February 23rd, 2016
ISBN 0882825143 (ISBN13: 9780882825144)
Same-sex couples are faced with many different options when choosing to have children today. In Journey to Same-Sex Parenthood, author, activist and Father Eric Rosswood guides and helps prospective LGBT parents to explore these five popular options: Adoption, Foster Care, Assisted Reproduction, Surrogacy and Co-Parenting. Each section includes a description of the specific family-building approach, followed by personal stories from same-sex couples and individuals who have chosen and gone through that particular journey. The appendix contains important legal issues to consider and questions to ask before deciding to move forward, along with a list of reasons why people may choose each of the five family-building paths and the challenges they may encounter.
Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic
June 8th, 2006
ISBN 0618871713 (ISBN13: 9780618871711)
Distant and exacting, Bruce Bechdel was an English teacher and director of the town funeral home, which Alison and her family referred to as the Fun Home. It was not until college that Alison, who had recently come out as a lesbian, discovered that her father was also gay. A few weeks after this revelation, he was dead, leaving a legacy of mystery for his daughter to resolve.
Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes
January 1st, 2014
ISBN 160774502X (ISBN13: 9781607745020)
Studies on gender and child development show that, on average, parents talk less to baby boys and are less likely to use numbers when speaking to little girls. Without meaning to, we constantly color-code children, segregating them by gender based on their presumed interests. Our social dependence on these norms has far-reaching effects, such as leading girls to dislike math or increasing aggression in boys. In this practical guide, developmental psychologist (and mother of two) Christia Spears Brown uses science-based research to show how over-dependence on gender can limit kids, making it harder for them to develop into unique individuals.
Out of the Ordinary: Essays on Growing Up with Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Parents
August 10th, 2000
ISBN 0312244894 (ISBN13: 9780312244897)
Out of the Ordinary is a truly unique anthology, a groundbreaking collection of essays by the grown children of lesbian, gay, and transgender parents. Ranging from humorous to poignant, the essays touch on some of the most important and complicated issues facing them: dealing with a parent's sexuality while developing an identity of one's own; overcoming homophobia at school and at family or social gatherings; and defining the modern family. In a time when traditional family structure has undergone radical change, Out of the Ordinary is an important look at the meaning of love, family, and relationships, and will speak to anyone who has lived or is interested in non-traditional families.
Gay and Lesbian Parents
August 19th, 1987
ISBN 0275923703 (ISBN13: 9780275923709)
This insightful new work deals with all of the contemporary issues concerning parenting by gay men and lesbians. It is designed to broaden readers' thinking on homosexuality and homosexuals in general; to include the dimension of children and parenting within the context of the homosexual family; and to provide specific information about it. The book also includes data on the children of gay and lesbian parents, as well as a discussion of alternative forms of parenthood such as adoptive and foster parenthood, stepparent families, and gay men and lesbians in heterosexual family unions. Because of their special significance, there are separate chapters on legal issues, counseling needs, and social psychological concerns for gays and lesbians considering parenthood.
The Lives of Lesbians, Gays, and Bisexuals: Children to Adults
August 1st, 1995
ISBN 0155014978 (ISBN13: 9780155014978)
This contributed text is for undergraduate or graduate courses in gay, lesbian and bisexual studies and courses on diversity issues taught in a variety of departments. The authors are experts from psychology, sociology, anthropology, education, women's studies, and law. Features: * Developmental focus provides students with a sense of continuity in understanding the life span challenges of gays, lesbians, and bisexuals. * Range of topics include perinatal factors in gender identity, issues in sexual childhood identity, perspectives on coming out, ethnic minorities, dating, relationships, families, and law. * Examples from popular culture, interviews, and life histories help students relate to and understand these issues more fully.
The New Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth
July 1st, 2006
ISBN 1555839401 (ISBN13: 9781555839406)
The New Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth has been thoroughly updated ensuring that this book remains the best source for women embarking on this most important step. Authors Stephanie Brill, the co-founder of the nationally renowned Maia Midwifery and Preconception Services, draws upon her years of expertise in working with lesbians, single women, and all the many faces of alternative families.
The Gay Uncle's Guide to Parenting: Candid Counsel from the Depths of the Daycare Trenches
March 4th, 2008
ISBN 0307381382 (ISBN13: 9780307381385)
When your toddler's bowel movements seem more important than world peace, mealtimes require strategic negotiations, and you haven't had a night out in eight months, it's time to admit something needs to change. Let Gay Uncle Brett Berk take you by the hand and walk you down the path to parental enlightenment. With over twenty years of experience working with young children, but no kids of his own, Brett uses his expert outsider's perspective to break moms and dads out of the Parenting Bubble, an alternate universe where under-table dining, Everest-like toy piles, and hourly tantrums somehow seem "normal".
Jesus Has Two Daddies
December 2nd, 2012
As teachers, when Tom Oakley and Tod McMillen first begin to talk about starting a family, they each tried to find as much information as possible, as they wanted to learn about the best way to go about this life changing decision. There was very little information geared towards gay men, so after a few months of searching, a little reading, and legally changing their names to McMillen-Oakley, they felt comfortable diving into the adoption process head first. They thought they knew everything. They were wrong. It is said that love makes a family. But in this case it was a teenage girl with two moms, a couple of lawyers, and just three weeks to get ready that made this particular family.
Unconditional: A Guide to Loving and Supporting Your LGBTQ Child
April 18th, 2017
ISBN 1633535150 (ISBN13: 9781633535152)
This is the go-to guide for parents hoping to understand and communicate with their gay child that answers parents' many questions, shares insight and guidance on both emotional and practical topics. Filled with real-life experiences from gay kids and parents, this is the book gay kids want their parents to read.
The Kid: (What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant) an Adoption Story
September 1st, 1999
ISBN 0452281768 (ISBN13: 9780452281769)
Dan Savage's nationally syndicated sex advice column, "Savage Love," enrages and excites more than four million people each week. In The Kid, Savage tells a no-holds-barred, high-energy story of an ordinary American couple who wants to have a baby. Except that in this case the couple happens to be Dan and his boyfriend. That fact, in the face of a society enormously uneasy with gay adoption, makes for an edgy, entertaining, and illuminating read. When Dan and his boyfriend are finally presented with an infant badly in need of parenting, they find themselves caught up in a drama that extends well beyond the confines of their immediate world.
River of Promise: Two Women's Story of Love and Adoption
February 28th, 1989
ISBN 0931055644 (ISBN13: 9780931055645)
Documents the struggle of lesbian life-partners Judy and Terry to adopt a child and how they eventually succeeded. The book offers creative and practical advice on adoption for non-traditional families.
Lesbian Motherhood: Stories of Becoming
June 27th, 2007
ISBN 1560236876 (ISBN13: 9781560236870)
A unique practical application of poststructuralist theory to lesbian mothers' narratives, Lesbian Motherhood: Stories of Becoming analyzes the personal stories of 40 lesbian mothers to discover the complex ways their sense of self is constructed in the current legal, political, and social climate. These intimate narratives are examined by using Gilles Deleuze and Felix Guattari's conceptual framework to understand subjectivities by focusing on the many flexible lines of movement that constitute subjectivities, or 'becomings.' This unique source reveals deep insight into a lesbian's construction of self through her stories about her own sexuality, parenting, and other experiences in becoming a mother.
Queer Families: An LGBTQ+ True Stories Anthology
November 23rd, 2017
Every family has a rainbow sheep! These are some of their stories. The premiere publication in Qommunicate Media's LGBTQ+ True Stories Anthology Series features stories and poems by children of gay dads and lesbian moms, transgender fathers and children, queer aunts and uncles, and others about life in their families -- all "straight" from the rainbow sheeps' mouths.
Lesbian and Gay Fostering and Adoption: Extraordinary Yet Ordinary
September 1st, 1998
ISBN 185302600X (ISBN13: 9781853026003)
Very little material exists on the experiences of gay men and lesbians who have adopted, fostered or provided respite care for children. This book presents a collection of personal accounts, based on interviews and written testimonies, by lesbian and gay parents from many different social and ethnic backgrounds. Their stories record good and bad experiences, but overall, the accounts are positive and emphasis the rewards of parenting. This book will dispel a lot of misconceptions: it will also be useful to gay men and lesbians who are thinking about adopting or fostering children.
OMG My Kid Is Gay! A Parent's Handbook
June 22nd, 2014
A light-hearted crash course for any parents who is navigating the emotional labyrinth of dealing with their child's sexuality. A moving and often comedic narrative on how to manage unfamiliar situation and preserve the integrity of family bonds.
Gay Fathers: Encouraging the Hearts of Gay Dads and Their Families
July 1st, 1990
ISBN 0787950750 (ISBN13: 9780787950750)
This greatly expanded edition of Gay Fathers contains a wealth of new real-life stories and up-to-date information that celebrates the power of gay fatherhood. Inspiring, definitive, scientifically researched, and experientially based, this thoroughly updated volume offers the most current data and concrete suggestions for dealing with the myriad and complex issues of gay parenting. Gay Fathers is the definitive resource for the more than one million gay fathers and their families and loved ones living in the United States and Canada.
My Child is Transgender: 10 Tips for Parents of Adult Trans Children
May 24th, 2012
Your adult child has come out to you as transgender and is considering, or has already begun, a transition from male to female or from female to male. What do you do now? This short, accessible guide is aimed at parents of transitioning adult children, offering ten tips to help you navigate one of the most challenging, and ultimately rewarding, times in your life. It is also helpful for other family members and loved ones looking for guidance. From "Lose the Blame" to "Learn to Let Go," the practical tips offered in My Child is Transgender:
The Ultimate Guide for Gay Dads: Everything You Need to Know About LGBTQ Parenting But Are (Mostly) Afraid to Ask
October 24th, 2017
ISBN 163353491X (ISBN13: 9781633534919)
Are you ready to have kids? More and more gay men are turning to adoption and surrogacy to start their own families. An estimated two million American LBGTQ people would like to adopt, and an estimated 65,000 adopted children are living with a gay parent. In 2016, The Chicago Tribune reported that 10 to 20 percent of donor eggs went to gay men expanding their families via surrogacy, and in many places the numbers were up 50 percent from the previous five years. Gay parenting: Having a kid is like coming out all over again, on a daily basis, especial if you have an infant. Was coming out stressful for you? It’s about to get more intense and you will have a child watching your every move and listening to your every word.
Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together
March 1st, 1995
ISBN 1560254521 (ISBN13: 9781560254522)
Straight Parents, Gay Children is Robert Bernstein's moving account of how he came to terms with his daughter's homosexuality and how the experience has enriched his life. Bernstein -- winner of the 1996 Award for Best Scholarship on the Subject of Intolerance, awarded by the Gustaves Myers Center for the Study of Human Rights in North America - discusses the myths surrounding homosexuality, accepting the news, parents who speak out, public figures who have gay children, and more. Straight Parents, Gay Children is a survival guide for all parents who wish to help their gay children cope with the inevitable cruelty from which they cannot hide.
The Gender Trap: Parents and the Pitfalls of Raising Boys and Girls
August 27th, 2012
ISBN 0814748821 (ISBN13: 9780814748824)
From the selection of toys, clothes, and activities to styles of play and emotional expression, the family is ground zero for where children learn about gender. Despite recent awareness that girls are not too fragile to play sports and that boys can benefit from learning to cook, we still find ourselves surrounded by limited gender expectations and persistent gender inequalities. Through the lively and engaging stories of parents from a wide range of backgrounds, The Gender Trap provides a detailed account of how today's parents understand, enforce, and resist the gendering of their children.
Queering Motherhood: Narrative and Theoretical Perspectives
August 1st, 2014
Few words are as steeped in beliefs about gender, sexuality, and social desirability as “motherhood”. Drawing on queer,postcolonial, and feminist theory, historical sources, personal narratives, film studies, and original empirical research, the authors in this book offer queer re-tellings and re- examinations of reproduction, family, politics, and community. The list of contributors includes emerging writers as well as established scholars and activists such as Gary Kinsman, Damien Riggs, Christa Craven, Cary Costello, Elizabeth Peel, and Rachel Epstein.
Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians and Gays Talk about Their Experiences
May 1st, 1986
ISBN 0312145500 (ISBN13: 9780312145507)
Based upon discussion and interviews conducted with parents belonging to P-FLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), a support and advocacy group with over four hundred chapters internationally, Beyond Acceptance provides parents with the comfort and knowledge needed to accept their gay children and build stronger relationships with them. It provides accurate, documented answers to the questions that surface after the initial shock and addresses such concerns as: "Is it a choice?" "Can it be changed?" and "Did the parents 'cause' their child to be gay?" With extensive testimony from other parents, this book lets mothers and fathers know that they are not alone and helps them through the emotional stages leading to reconciliation with their children.
Mindful Co-parenting: A Child-Friendly Path through Divorce
December 2nd, 2014
Mindful Co-Parenting provides divorced parents a practical way through the process that protects their children. In this compact, step-by-step guide, written in a supportive yet direct style, clinical psychologists Jeremy S. Gaies, Psy.D., and James B. Morris Jr., Ph.D., identify what matters most to kids and describe the importance of parents being mindful of their children’s needs and wants. Starting with the question of whether or not divorce is the best option for your family, the book walks you through the process, from choosing the most child-friendly divorce proceedings, to navigating co- parenting after the papers are signed, to handling the future challenges of stepparenting and other issues that may arise.
Transgender Children and Youth: Cultivating Pride and Joy with Families in Transition
May 2nd, 2017
ISBN 0393711390 (ISBN13: 9780393711394)
These days, it is practically impossible not to hear about some aspect of transgender life. Whether it is the bathroom issue in North Carolina, trans people in the military, or on television, trans life has become front and center after years of marginalization. And kids are coming out as trans at younger and younger ages, which is a good thing for them. But what written resources are available to parents, teachers, and mental health professionals who need to support these children?
I Promised Not to Tell: Raising a Transgender Child
July 15th, 2016
ISBN 0995180725 (ISBN13: 9780995180727)
What is unique about this story is that it follows one transgender child from birth through age eighteen. You get a real sense of what this family went through. Their son's desperate effort to comply to societal gender norms, a suicide attempt, a family members struggle with God and transgenderism, a heart breaking death and much more. Every step of their son's transition from female to male (FTM) is discussed in detail, including hormone replacement therapy and sex reassignment surgeries. This book shares it all in the hopes of making a difference in what seems like a harsh and cruel world for transgender people.
We Are Family: Testimonies of Lesbian and Gay Parents
December 1st, 1996
ISBN 0304331481 (ISBN13: 9780304331482)
Lesbians and gay men become parents in many different ways; through heterosexual marriages, artificial insemination, formal and informal arrangements with straight or gay donor fathers, surrogacy, fostering and adoption. They receive a wide variety of responses to becoming parents. Through interviews with gay and lesbian parents from a wide range of circumstances We Are Family paints a detailed, emotional and enlightening picture. It shows that queers usually make excellent parents and provide a balanced and successful environment for raising children. Too many lesbians and gay men still hide the truth of their parenting arrangements because of the power of the prejudice and the myths that surround their situation.
Lesbian and Gay Parenting: Securing Social and Educational Capital
September 15th, 2009
ISBN 0230202721 (ISBN13: 9780230202726)
This book explores the intersections between class and sexuality in lesbians and gay men's experiences of parenting and the everyday pathways navigated therein, from initial routes into parenting, to location preferences, schooling choice and community supports.
Raising My Rainbow: Adventures in Raising a Fabulous, Gender Creative Son
September 3rd, 2013
ISBN 0770437729 (ISBN13: 9780770437725)
Raising My Rainbow is Lori Duron’s frank, heartfelt, and brutally funny account of her and her family's adventures of distress and happiness raising a gender-creative son. Whereas her older son, Chase, is a Lego-loving, sports-playing boy's boy, her younger son, C.J., would much rather twirl around in a pink sparkly tutu, with a Disney Princess in each hand while singing Lady Gaga's "Paparazzi." C.J. is gender variant or gender nonconforming, whichever you prefer. Whatever the term, Lori has a boy who likes girl stuff—really likes girl stuff.
My Reluctant Journey: A Memoir of a Gay Dad
December 30th, 2011
ISBN 1467880922 (ISBN13: 9781467880923)
My book takes the reader through the journey of my life from my difficult birth in a Glasgow slum to the present day. I travelled the world with my job as a contractor, and met many different kinds of people, some good and some bad, all of which I relate to in my story. I also had many adventures along the way and many sexual interludes that in the end made me realize I was gay and what I had to face up to. His story is an account of his time living and growing up in Glasgow and his travels, the hardships and challenges in maintaining a job and an insight into the gay scene in Scotland at that time. It is also an account of his struggle coming to terms with his own homosexuality and his acceptance of it. As a consequence, he faced a lot of anguish and confused emotions early in his life regarding his innermost feelings and the tenuous relationship with his family.
This Is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids: A Question & Answer Guide to Everyday Life
September 9th, 2014
ISBN 1452127530 (ISBN13: 9781452127538)
Written in an accessible Q&A format, here, finally, is the go-to resource for parents hoping to understand and communicate with their gay child. Through their LGBTQ-oriented site, the authors are uniquely experienced to answer parents' many questions and share insight and guidance on both emotional and practical topics. Filled with real-life experiences from gay kids and parents, this is the book gay kids want their parents to read.
The Truth Game
April 6th, 2017
ISBN 0704374307 (ISBN13: 9780704374300)
A breathtakingly honest memoir by the granddaughter of Vita Sackville-West, this beautifully written recollection of the friends, lovers and family who have played a vital role in Vanessa's life is a stunning sequel to the highly acclaimed 'Have You Been Good?' As a teenager Vanessa plays a game with her father: they take turns to ask a question and the other must answer truthfully. One day Vanessa asks: 'Apart from with Mummy, have you ever been so in love that you would have liked to marry someone else?' Her father is visibly shaken and as the truth emerges it becomes clear why... Told as a series of fourteen lucid vignettes in an original and innovative way, The Truth Game is both a haunting exploration of love, loss and grief and a portrait of the vulnerability at the heart of one of Britain's most eminent families.
Chasing Rainbows: Exploring Gender Fluid Parenting Practices
January 1st, 2013
ISBN 1927335183 (ISBN13: 9781927335185)
Feminist parenting creates unique challenges. Mothers may struggle with shifts in their own subjectivity and the peculiar conjoinment of parenthood. As women experience the unique powerlessness of motherhood, they also hold the uncomfortable power of acting as advocates for and as agents of socialization and social control over their children. Fathers may feel the desire for feminist parenting whilst experiencing a backlash and a lack of support, while some parents may attempt to resist the binaries of mothering and fathering in their feminist parenting journey. Feminist parents may attempt to resist gender binaries; they may submit to them while attempting to foster critical dialogue; they may struggle with the display of their own femininity and masculinity or, for some, its perceived lack.
An American Family
February 16th, 2001
ISBN 0312288875 (ISBN13: 9780312288877)
This is the story of two gay men who become foster parents to Adam, a premature baby, born with the AIDS virus and addicted to crack, heroin, marijuana, and alcohol. While nursing Adam through the many medical emergencies of his first year and surviving the daily dramas that all new parents go through, they realize that this child, their son, could be taken back from them at any time by the state, and they decide to try to legally adopt him together. Refused by the state—even as it asks them to care for another at-risk infant—they decide to fight for their son in the courts, and win, setting a precedent for all unmarried couples in New Jersey. This book is dramatic proof that the American family is vibrantly alive and extending itself in remarkable new directions.
You're Not from Around Here, Are You? A Lesbian in Small-Town America
March 13th, 2001
ISBN 0299170942 (ISBN13: 9780299170943)This is a funny, moving story about life in a small town, from the point of view of a pregnant lesbian. Louise A. Blum, author of the critically acclaimed novel Amnesty, now tells the story of her own life and her decision to be out, loud, and pregnant. Mixing humor with memorable prose, Blum recounts how a quiet, conservative town in an impoverished stretch of Appalachia reacts as she and a local woman, Connie, fall in love, move in together, and determine to live their life together openly and truthfully. The town responds in radically different ways to the couple’s presence, from prayer vigils on the village green to a feature article in the family section of the local newspaper. This is a cautionary, wise, and celebratory tale about what it’s like to be different in America—both the good and the bad. A depiction of small town life with all its comforts and its terrors, this memoir speaks to anyone who has ever felt like an outsider in America. Blum tells her story with a razor wit and deft precision, a story about two "girls with grit," and the child they decide to raise, right where they are, in small town America.
Now That You Know: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children
December 31st, 1979
ISBN 015667601X (ISBN13: 9780156676014)
Enlightening and positive informative and compassionate, Now That You Know has become a standard reference for families with gay sons or daughters, Written by two mothers of gay children, the book discusses the nature of homosexuality and works toward helping both children and parents understand the experience of the other. Fairchild and Hayward counsel parents how to respond supportively to gay children and focus on bringing families together and maintaining the bonds of acceptance and affirmation.
Breakfast with Tiffany: An Uncle's Memoir
June 15th, 2005
ISBN 140135999X (ISBN13: 9781401359997)
Edwin Wintle was a successful, urbane professional whose life, at forty, was very comfortable. He had reached the point when he looked around at his well-ordered, unfettered existence and wondered, "Is this all there is?" After a desperate call from his sister at her wit's end, his streetwise thirteen-year-old niece Tiffany--a writhing ball of adolescent anger -- comes to live with him. If he felt he needed a shot in the arm, what he got proved more like electroshock therapy. Breakfast with Tiffany chronicles the newly minted family through a year of tumult and drama, as instant parent Uncle Eddy watches his best-laid plans go awry. With an edgy wit and compassion reminiscent of Augusten Burroughs and David Sedaris, Edwin Wintle recounts not only the coming of age of his beloved, if troubled niece, but his own as well.
My Two Moms: Lessons of Love, Strength, and What Makes a Family
April 26th, 2012
ISBN 1592407137 (ISBN13: 9781592407132)
In My Two Moms, Zach offers a stirring and brave defense of his family. Raised by two moms in a conservative Midwestern town, Zach’s parents instilled in him values that families everywhere can embrace—values driven home by his journey toward becoming an Eagle Scout. Zach’s upbringing couldn’t have been more mainstream—he played sports, was active in Boy Scouts, and led his high school speech and debate team—yet, growing up with two moms, he knows that it’s like to feel different and fear being bullied, or worse. In the inspirational spirit of It Gets Better edited by Dan Savage and Terry Miller, My Two Moms also delivers a reassuring message to same-sex couples, their kids, and anyone who's ever felt like an outsider: "You are not alone."
Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People
August 9th, 2012
Trans-Kin is a collection of stories from significant others, family members, friends and allies of transgender persons (SOFFAs). Powerful, thought-provoking and enlightening, this collection will provide for the head and the heart of anyone who has ever loved a transgender person. Trans-Kin is also an essential read for allies of the transgender community and anyone who wishes to become one.
Lesbian Parenting Living with Pride
January 1st, 2000
ISBN 0921881339 (ISBN13: 9780921881339)
The perfect primer for lesbian parents, and a helpful resource for their families and friends, this book includes a theoretical perspective as well as the personal experiences of lesbians and their children.
Lesbian and Gay Families: Redefining Parenting in America
September 1st, 1995
ISBN 0531112071 (ISBN13: 9780531112076)
Who has the right to become parents in America? What constitutes a family? The increasing visibility of gay and lesbian parents has raised these questions as well as numerous others in a continuing debate about families and raising them. The author looks at the many routes gays and lesbians travel to become parents, in addition to the legal and social difficulties they encounter.
Dress Codes: Of Three Girlhoods—My Mother's, My Father's, and Mine
May 16th, 2002
ISBN 0312422202 (ISBN13: 9780312422202)
Throughout her childhood in suburban Ohio, Noelle struggled to gain love and affection from her distant father. In compensating for her father's brusqueness, Noelle idolized her nurturing tomboy mother and her conservative grandma who tried to turn her into "a little lady." At age fourteen, Noelle's mom told her the family secret: "Dad likes to wear women's clothes." As Noelle copes with a turbulent adolescence, her father begins to metamorphose into the loving parent she had always longed for—only now outfitted in pedal pushers and pink lipstick.
The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes
April 5th, 2016
ISBN 1615193065 (ISBN13: 9781615193066)
In her groundbreaking first book, Gender Born, Gender Made, Dr. Diane Ehrensaft coined the term gender creative to describe children whose unique gender expression or sense of identity is not defined by a checkbox on their birth certificate. Now, with The Gender Creative Child, she returns to guide parents and professionals through the rapidly changing cultural, medical, and legal landscape of gender and identity. In this up-to-date, comprehensive resource, Dr. Ehrensaft explains the interconnected effects of biology, nurture, and culture to explore why gender can be fluid, rather than binary.
Expert Advice for Gay and Lesbian Parents: Your Guide on How to be a Great Parent, Equipped Yourself with Great Parenting Skills
February 9th, 2015
The truth is parenting does not have a gender, sexual orientation, or an economic class. People don’t make great parents because they happen to be biologically female, gay, or a multi-millionaire. You do not even need to be the biological parent in order for you to have parenting skills. Has your ability as a parent ever been questioned because of your sexual orientation? Are your children struggling against prejudice just because you happen to be homosexual?
How Would You Feel If Your Dad Was Gay?
April 13th, 1991
ISBN 1555831885 (ISBN13: 9781555831882)
Jasmine, Michael and Noah are all regular kids except for one thing: Jasmine and Michael have two gay fathers. Noah has a gay mother. They have some unique concerns that they've never seen discussed by anyone else. This book, written by two lesbian mothers with help from their sons, will be a lifeline for other young people who face the same issues. It will also help their classmates, teachers, and parents to better understand just how varied today's families can be.
Where's MY Book? A Guide for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Youth, Their Parents, & Everyone Else
November 20th, 2015
Linda Gromko MD is a Board-Certified Family Physician who has worked with the transgender community for years. She explains the basics of gender identity, sexual orientation, puberty, puberty blockers, hormone treatments, and gender affirming surgeries. She shares years of her patients’ wisdom and practical information on getting through every day in the best way possible—from coming out to parents, to school issues, to coping with depression, to love and sex. Why is this book important? We know that transgender kids and their families need specialized information.
Coping When A Parent Is Gay
May 1st, 1992
ISBN 0823914046 (ISBN13: 9780823914043)
Accelerated Reader is a program based on the fact that students become more motivated to read if they are tested on the content of the books they have read and are rewarded for correct answers. Students read each book, individually take the test on the computer, and receive gratification when they score well. Schools using the Accelerated Reader program have seen a significant increase in reading among their students. These Coping books will help your middle school and high school students cope with personal and social issues they encounter every day.
Let's Get This Straight: A Gay- And Lesbian-Affirming Approach to Child Welfare
February 3rd, 2000
ISBN 0231111371 (ISBN13: 9780231111379)
The first book to approach child welfare from a gay- and lesbian-affirming perspective, Let's Get This Straight uncovers and challenges the pervasive presence of "heterocentrism" within the social work profession. It draws upon case examples and in-depth interviews to illustrate the degree to which myths and stereotypes about gay and lesbian youth detrimentally affect those most in need of assistance.
Fairyland: A Memoir of My Father
June 3rd, 2013
ISBN 0393082520 (ISBN13: 9780393082524)
After his wife dies in a car accident, bisexual writer and activist Steve Abbott moves with his two-year-old daughter to San Francisco. There they discover a city in the midst of revolution, bustling with gay men in search of liberation—few of whom are raising a child. Steve throws himself into San Francisco’s vibrant cultural scene. He takes Alysia to raucous parties, pushes her in front of the microphone at poetry readings, and introduces her to a world of artists, thinkers, and writers. But the pair live like nomads, moving from apartment to apartment, with a revolving cast of roommates and little structure.
Radical Relations: Lesbian Mothers, Gay Fathers, and Their Children in the United States Since World War II
May 13th, 2013
ISBN 1469607182 (ISBN13: 9781469607184)
In Radical Relations, Daniel Winunwe Rivers offers a previously untold story of the American family: the first history of lesbian and gay parents and their children in the United States. Beginning in the postwar era, a period marked by both intense repression and dynamic change for lesbians and gay men, Rivers argues that by forging new kinds of family and childrearing relations, gay and lesbian parents have successfully challenged legal and cultural definitions of family as heterosexual. These efforts have paved the way for the contemporary focus on family and domestic rights in lesbian and gay political movements.
Forever Dads: A Gay Couple's Journey to Fatherhood
October 14th, 2010
Forever Dads: A Gay Couple’s Journey to Fatherhood, chronicles Tony and Antonio’s experience from their first exploratory meeting at the “Pop Luck Club,” to tackling one of the hardest, yet most gratifying responsibilities in the world – parenting. Readers will follow Tony and Antonio as they navigate the tumultuous roller coaster ride of the Los Angeles County foster-adoption system to the ultimate adoption finalization of their sons Erick and John.
Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All!
May 1st, 2006
ISBN 0807079634 (ISBN13: 9780807079638)
After author Harlyn Aizley gave birth to her daughter, she watched in unanticipated horror as her partner scooped up the baby and said, "I'm your new mommy!" While they both had worked to find the perfect sperm donor, Aizley had spent nine months carrying the baby and hours in labor, so how could her partner claim to be their child's mommy? Many diapers later, Aizley began to appreciate the complexity of her partner's new role as the other mother. Together, they searched for stories about families like their own, in which a woman has chosen to forgo her own birth experience so that she might support her partner in hers. They found very few. Now, in Confessions of the Other Mother, Aizley has put together an exciting collection of personal stories by women like her partner who are creating new parenting roles, redefining motherhood, and reshaping our view of two-parent families.